I just wrote a blog post on how straight women like watching lesbian porn and another on living a self-actualized sex life (coming to a computer screen near you soon). I’ve written a couple of other posts that are related to the topics of intimacy and sex but shied away from doing very much and felt very nervous about sharing my posts publicly…unsure of what others would think and how they would react.
My blog is my blog and while I know I can write about whatever I want, I also have clients coming here and perhaps not expecting to find posts around these topics. Some might see it as a stretch given that my “day job” (I am self-employed) is all about WordPress, building a business and healing your personal life so your business can actually rock since your it is simply a reflection of your personal life. But healing your personal life includes intimacy and sex so, to me, it fits perfectly.
Even though I consider my blog to be a lifestyle blog, meaning I blog about topics around living a specific kind of lifestyle, I’m not sure I’ve been really open as to what that means…with myself or with others. What it means to live inspired by design is to make choices in all aspects of living that get me closer to fully engaging in my relationships with others…fully engaging in my business and with my clients…fully engaging in creating a home I love…fully engaging in what feeds my soul…fully engaging in life. It’s about how I choose to show up in the world. Every day.
It’s about being and feeling whole. I have all these different aspects of myself and I’ve lived a life of compartmentalizing many of those pieces, depending on who I am around and what I am doing and, man, that’s exhausting. It takes energy that could be spent on things I enjoy so much more than hiding. I could go for a bike ride with my bestie (he loves that nickname, by the way) or look for beauty through the lens of my camera or cook a fabulous meal or watch my favorite show or read a really good book or chat with a friend or curl up with my cat or have some really good sex. So many delicious options.
And good sex is part of life. Everything in our lives is a metaphor for everything else in our lives…how we approach one thing is how we approach everything. So we can’t be shut down around the topic of sex and expect to be open…truly open…about everything else in our lives…it just doesn’t work. Since I started sharing some of my creative musings here a few months ago (poems I wrote during a big time of transition for me), I have found I could write about these topics all day long. Not just sex but everything indulgent in life. I’m not talking about foolish indulgence or being glutenous. I’m talking about engaging fully in the life in front of you.
Life is way too short to sit back and be content with a status quo life. Get out there today and enjoy it. Really tap into what brings you to climax (and not JUST in bed) and do more of that every day. If you want to share something, share it. If you want to do something, do it. If you want to be something, be it.
And if you want to read about it, stop on my my blog cuz I’ll be writing about it more and more.
And do it all now. Right now. Don’t let another moment slip through your fingers. I know that’s what I’ll be doing…living inspired by design (and talking about it to whoever will listen).
I just found your personal page and the first one was this one. And I just have to say, with a sigh of happy relief, that you my dear will leave this life with a little bit of fame. For all of us you’ve fostered the evolving need to open gently to the sun. I honor you… (and now that I’ve found the personal posts I’ll be reading back).
Thank you for your kind words, Kimberly. I will be writing more of these posts when I get a little further in my process of rebranding here.
Great Blog Michele! Yes to writing more about what brings you a wholehearted life! I really resonated with your words and have found myself editing and/or compartmentalizing my self occasionally due to the “what ifs” and you are right, its’ exhausting. Thank you for being courageous and being you.
It is so exhausting. I hope you’ll join me in no longer doing things that don’t serve us well 🙂
Michele,
I totally understand how exhausting it can be to compartmentalize your life and only share parts of who you are. This effects not only those who are self employed concerned of client reaction but those of us in the Corporate world as well. It is difficult to let your ” freak flag fly” in the office especially if you are in management. It all needs to be tempered or your doomed to a trip to the HR office. ( similar to the principal’s office)!
Oh yes. I was there and co.pletely understand. When I tried to bring yoga to parks and receive and was accused of having crazy way out there ideas and ended up with a target on my back…all over something that is so accepted today and intended to bring joy and relaxation to our lives. It’s crazy how some things can be taken by others.
It IS exhausting censoring yourself and trying to write safe. Say what you want to say and your real tribe will find and appreciate you.
BTW, it wasn’t until the second reading that I realized you weren’t going to curl up with your cat and have some really good sex. I don’t know if I’m relieved or disappointed.
I feel like I have so many wonderful people around me and that makes this entire journey more fun and more worth taking risks 🙂
Lol who knows what I’ll do next 😉 might as well keep ya guessing!
Love this post Michele. I absolutely agree. In other words don’t let life pass you by. Thank you for such a beautifully written reminder.
Thank you, Hema. No life passing me by…not for a second 🙂
Key words = fully engaging. EXCELLENT!
Fully engaging is such a wonderful way to experience life, isn’t it?!
I’m always and easily inspired my surroundings and also the littlest of things.
The little things are so amazing. I am grateful I no longer miss these moments.
I agree Michele and think it’s increasingly important that we all show up as the whole beings we are. I know it can feel tricky thinking we have to (or ought to, or probably should, or whatever terms we use) be mindful of our client base, but I believe equally important is understanding that unless we show up as who we truly are our clients don’t get to see our full light. And I want my clients to resonant with the true me, not a pretzel version of me twisted into some configuration I think will be more palatable or presentable. Here’s to authenticity and genuinely expressing our core values in every aspect of our lives AND the generosity of spirit that allows each one of us to hold our fellow humans in loving-kindness as they show up as their true selves.
Yes! Deborah…you make my heart sing. Thank you 🙂